Why Men Cheat

Despite sounding like something you’d order during Oktoberfest, Weiner and Spitzer come in the political game back. Weiner continues to transport a slim lead in NY City’s Democratic mayoral primary, and Spitzer, New York’s former governor, shocked all half-dozen individuals who follow may be found by developing a late entry into the city’s comptroller race. Both men are former high-profile politicians seeking less auspicious offices seemingly. Both men could be past subjects of sex scandals also.
Spitzer, in 2008, was caught having impure liaisons with a hot-but-jeez-man-not-$1,000/hour-hot prostitute. As things out shook, it turned out estimated he spent in a nearby of $80K on hookers over his career. Weiner, more hilariously, was caught in 2011 sending suggestive selfies from what he claims were six different women over a span of three years. Spitzer and his wife apart are reportedly living. I don’t think anyone would begrudge her that, because $80,000 is goddamned ridiculous. Alternatively, Weiner and his wife remain had and married a son following scandal broke out. They clearly believe the voting public is getting ready to forgive them, but why the discrepancy in the wives’ behavior? Is there varying levels of cheating ?
In college, I took a human sexuality class where we were offered a socio-biological theory of sex, relationships and fidelity. We learned that for men seeking to spread their genes, it’s a lot more efficient to take action as often as you possibly can. There’s lot’s of competition in the marketplace, and doing this costs them next to nothing. But women would be the ones stuck birthing and raising the kid. For them, their likelihood of survival are best when they are able to lock down the resources (time, food, influence) of the daddy.
When it comes to cheating, our thresholds certainly are a little different. Males view sexual infidelity with the best disdain, since it impedes their probability of passing on the genetic material. Plus, no male really wants to risk using his resources to improve another man’s baby. Women are a lot more worried about extraneous emotional relationships. From the biological standpoint, it is of no issue to her if the male is spreading his seed elsewhere. But if he’s also forming emotional bonds with other women, that creates competition for his resources, which could put her and her child’s survival at risk.
That makes lots of sense, at least for early humans, or in a vacuum. The problem is, we’re neither of those. Thanks to prophylactics, people are, for the most part, free to date and have sex with whomever they wish, provided no commitment is stated. Resources are obviously still important to raising a family, but it’s rare that one man in a given community holds all of them. And besides, women are plenty capable of acquiring them on their own. Still, you see vestiges of those ancient instincts when we react to infidelity. If your lady has any sense about her, she’s still going to kick you to the curb if she catches you sleeping with someone else, but she’s going to be much more devastated and embarrassed if it was a full-blown affair going on behind her back. As guys, we may raise some eyebrows and get suspicious if our spouse or girlfriend forms a new friendship with another guy, but that’s only because we fear it may lead to sexual infidelity. When that happens, we lose our minds, breaking stuff and making Tasmanian Devil noises (the cartoon kind).
In either case, sex is still the linchpin. Spitzer’s transgressions were perhaps the definition of emotionless, no-strings-attached sex, but again we’re not early humans, and probably the most delusional woman has her limits even. In fact, his great resources and power were most likely the only things keeping his marriage functioning given that it did.

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