What Shes Thinking After Your One

When it comes to women and the notion of casual sex, things are often much more easily said than done (as I’m sure you’ve figured out by now).
And that’s not because we’re lying, or trying to trick you, or changing our minds – it’s because for many of us, separating the physical from the emotional and/or mental is really tough. It’s just not how we’re wired. Sex for sex’s sake is your thing, not ours.
So while some of us are better at it than others, it usually takes something, or someone, to build us up to it. Alcohol helps of course (a lot of it), but so does something like a cheating boyfriend , or a fresh breakup.
Regardless of the specifics, once we commit to the idea, it’s full steam ahead. And lucky you if you’re the one in her way.
The problem with the roaring casual sex express, however, is that the tracks will eventually run out. And in this case, it usually has something to do with the painfully sobering light of the early morning sun. Now you’re just two strangers, lying naked beside each other, with the magic gone. And that’s when things tend to get awkward.
But it doesn’t have to.
Regardless of what comes of this rendezvous, it is actually possible to summary a one-night stand in a comparatively quick and comfortable way, on good terms, for you both. It’s only a matter to be in tune and alert to what another is thinking.
And while she actually is likely thinking and feeling a hell of greater than you, it really is pretty straightforward…
Whether or not she had fun or not, that is likely the vital thing she is going to feel after the realization of what just happened sets in. With her buzz worn off, and all that mystery she had doing work for her 12 hours ago now out the window, all that remains will be the little equipment from last night which are slowly needs to trickle in. And her insecurities, needless to say, each one of these bringing with it shame, embarrassment and guilt. Some tend to be more logical than others, none are that you understand. One thing that’s for certain though: regretting the actual fact that she’s here close to you, and not in the home dealing with each one of these feelings, alone, reaches the most notable of the list.
Don’t take this personally. Until, the sex was completely crap, then you most definitely may take this personally. But seriously, that immediate oh fck” feeling she’s having is more about her than other things, and is actually just the consequence of her sobering up. She’ll be ok, you certainly do not need to rescue her. But doing all your best to get this to situation as comfortable as you possibly can will be a huge relief. Tell her you’d a great, make light of the problem, and you need to be normal. She’ll follow suit.
What Happened
As the memories commence to pour in, she’ll start piecing all of the elements of the story back together again. Mentally retracing every step extracted from as soon as you two met and left wherever it had been you’re together (bar, office Christmas party , church group, Pizza Hut) right around two minutes ago when she opened her eyes. You understand, to make sure precisely what transpired last night was kosher and that she didn’t embarrass herself too much. And subdue the oncoming anxiety. Speaking of which, where is that condom wrapper? The only thing worse than coming to the realization that she actually went home with a stranger, is finding out that she wasn’t responsible on top of it. (No pun intended.)
Please note that nothing gives a girl a heart attack like not seeing a clear condom wrapper the morning after, particularly when you’re a stranger, and particularly when alcohol was involved. So if you are among those guys who loves to clean up immediately on her behalf sake, do her a favor: keep it in an obvious place. Please and thanks.
Once she’s settled on last night’s details and is relatively certain she hasn’t contracted an illness, it’s only natural on her behalf to turn her concentrate on you, with this,” and start considering what everything means. If the sex was just alright, then there’s really very little to consider. If the sex was a lot more than alright, well which could change the overall game. Because great sex is really a sign of good chemistry, and good chemistry is really a sign of something more. So at the most, it is a potential relationshipГЌВѕ at the minimum, more great sex. And, provided that her current situation allows for it, both options are worth exploring.
Exit Strategy
OK, one thing that needs to be made clear right off the bat here is that this part is always just as awkward for us as it is for you. Truthfully speaking, even if she’s had a great time, she’s not trying to drag this out. You just met. And strangely, lying naked next to you on a Sunday morning feels more intimate than all the sex the night before. It’s just weirdГЌВѕ something couples do. And regardless of what comes of this, it’s definitely too soon. At the very most she might stay for breakfast, but only if she’s getting good vibes, and only if you insist. But really, she’s just trying to find her other damn sock so she can get her shoes on and get out of here.
Just be patient. You don’t need start dropping those not so subtle hints about how busy you are today, and how you have to get an early start – that’s such a dick move. I assure you she’s not trying to move in. Hell, she probably won’t even ask for coffee. Just some mouthwash if you’ve got some, and maybe a quick shower before the drive home. The last thing a woman wants to feel after a hookup is rushed or dismissed. Give her 20 and she’s out.
Plan B

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