Writing is not easy. And yet most of us do it every day, multiple times a day, in the form of texting Sure, texting doesn’t require the same formality and care as writing an essay or a news article or a letter, but the way you choose to communicate through writing can make a big impression on someone.
It can be a huge pet peeve for some women if you’re not good at texting. From bad spelling, to immature language to rambling messages, if she’s cringing every time she looks down at a message from you, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
But don’t worry, you don’t need to hire a professional proofreader to look over your messages every time you intend to hit send. All it requires is really a little reflection – attempting to start to see the text through somebody else’s eyes – to recognize some typically common texting issues.
Check out this set of 11 texting mistakes and get ready to distribute the sexiest blast of SMS she’s ever seen.
Crinnnge. For a few women, seeing a note like this could cause a full-body shudder. Not merely does it claim that you haven’t opened a book as your senior high school English class, in addition, it suggests a carelessness that she is going to worry might bleed into other areas of your behavior.
How to correct it: Have a minute to learn over your message before you hit send. If you are worried you will not catch the errors, try reading it aloud or even obtaining a friend to read it.
Nervous laughter in text form comes off the same way as nervous laughter in real life. It’s fine to throw in a “lol” or “haha” when something is funny, but if you’re throwing it in left and right, it’s just going to come off as immature.
How to fix it: Free yourself of the lol. You don’t need it. Your texts look better without it.
Emojis can be a real issue of taste. She may love them, she may hate them. Generally, it’s best to go by the maxim, “everything in moderation” – even emojis
How to fix it: Just feel it out. If she’s not using a lot emojis, chances are she’s not super into them. If she does use them, then it’s only a matter of time before your conversation are conducted entirely in winks, poops and sheep.
You’re writing a text message, not a cliffhanger novel.
How to fix it: If you examine your over-use of ellipses, you’ll probably find that you’re using them as a crutch – either to “soften” endings of sentences (a period!? how final!) or because you feel unsure about what you’re saying. Just like with the “lols”, let them go! Your texts will look much more confident and definite without them.
A massive wall of text can be pretty intimidating to receive right off the bat. As a wise woman-turned-meme once said “Ain’t nobody got time for that.”
Once you’ve got a good rapport going with someone, it makes sense that you’d start to send them longer text messages. But you don’t need to be sending rambling walls of texts to someone you just met and, really, if you’ve got THAT much to say, why don’t you just call her?
How to fix it: Give your thumbs a rest. They probably need it. And save the long discussions for in-person.
This is the quickest way to lose someone’s interest. If even the thought of texting you back is stressing them out because they’re afraid of your negative reaction, it’s likely that they’ll just stop texting you altogether.
How to fix it: Forget about trying to guilt someone into paying attention to you and find someone who pays attention to you the amount you need.
This type of writing is fine – if you’re a teenager using AIM in 1996.
How to fix it: We’re not going to tell you that all your texts have to be prim and proper. You’re an adult, you can text however you like. But if you’re going to text in an unconventional way, at least be creative instead of using slang that hasn’t been popular since Bill Clinton was president.
Nothing is more painful than a text conversation where no one will take the reigns and decide on some plans. Plus, when you start adding too many options and variables to a plan via text, the chances of details getting confused/misinterpreted increases significantly. This is what leads to someone accidentally getting stood up at a movie theater.
How to fix it: Keep it simple! Decide the smaller details in person.
This is another tricky one. Some people like to be responded to very promptly when it comes to texts. Others don’t mind waiting a bit to hear back from you. Some people find slow responders very frustrating and others find quick responders smothering. Try to figure out what the best balance is for you and your new text buddy.
How to fix it: Just make sure that if you’re texting about important things like plans or information that you don’t keep her waiting. It’s not playing hard to get if you’re just wasting her time.
Unless you’ve already ventured into sexting territory together, don’t just come out of nowhere with this stuff. And even once you’ve established that sexting is okay, watch your timing.There’s a time and a place for her to read a description of your penis and it’s not in the middle of her niece’s baptism. (And never EVER send a dick pic unless explicitly asked.)
How to fix it: If you really need to send dirty messages out into the world, find somewhere to send them where no one will see them. You know like Twitter or something.
This is another one that can be a big deal to some women. An exclamation point in texting is not the same as an exclamation point in speech or in formal writing. It doesn’t mean you’re yelling something, it just means you’re jazzed! You’re excited about talking to her and the plans you’re making together! Yay!
As with emojis and lols, you only need to use them here and there, but the difference they make is honestly huge.
How to fix it: If your texts are looking a little dry, pepper them with some exclamation points and watch how the mood of your conversations instantly changes!