Nice Guys Dont Put Themselves First

7. Nice Guys Don’t Put Themselves First
What’s wrong with nice guys? The largest problem is that a lot of are hideously insecure. They’re so anxious to be liked and loved they do things for other folks to get acceptance and attention, instead of for the easy pleasure of giving. You never know if a nice guy really likes you for who you are or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.
They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be on – not forgetting the known proven fact that we have a tendency to fall from them.
Nice guys speak up when something bothers them rarely, and state clearly what it really is they want rarely, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the ultimate end of the partnership. Of compromising and negotiating Instead, they give in repeatedly. When she doesn’t appreciate their sacrifice, they’ll complain that “Everything I did so, I did on her behalf,” as though this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A female doesn’t want a martyr. She wants the same, caring, adult partner.

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