Leading Her On

Did you watch this winter’s Celebrity Big Brother ? There was hardly anything else to do in January and the bi-annual rafter of D-list celebrities on the show’s roster is so wonderfully intriguing and shamefully addictive, I simply couldn’t resist. If you didn’t watch it (and there’s every reason you wouldn’t have) the dominating storyline revolved around a Lee Ryan, of boy-band Blue fame, cosying around glamour model Casey Batchelor, telling her he, ‘really likes her’ whilst hand and hand during intercourse and that his growing feelings are, ‘for real.day roughly ‘ The next, he ditched for American… personality?, Jasmine Waltz. Lee and Jasmine fell in lust and madly, to her eviction prior, a week making use of their tonsils entwined spent, cuddling in the bed he distributed to Casey. Casey sobbed in Big Brother’s ‘Diary Room,’ claiming she was humiliated publically, rejected and entirely led on by her crush Lee. Which she was.
I felt for Casey. Being led on and then rejected by someone you like is not nice. Imagine being offered a huge promotion at work and then, just as you’re adjusting the swivel chair in your shiny new office, someone comes in, chucks you back into the cubicle and gives your job to an intern. Yeah, that.
In my early 20s I remember a bloke suddenly calling time on our three-month-fling. ‘But you introduced me to your Dad,’ I argued, mystified over the phone. ‘We’ve spent every weekend together. You HELD MY HAND.’ He claimed that it was ‘never serious.’ I felt somewhat used and entirely led to believe this level of intimacy indicated the start of a relationship. As any girl would.
Lee claimed he didn’t mean to lead Casey on, but surely any 30-year-old man can work out that if you’ve cuddled up to a girl you know likes you and told her you prefer her too, she’ll feel just a little offended when you back off. We women respond rapidly to things. If we as if you, we digest and analyse all your actions towards us constantly.
I’ve known a great deal of Lees. They’re charming and playful It’s within their nature to be extremely flirtatious with any woman they meet, to fall in lust fast and hard. They surround themselves with female friends and so are never with out a girlfriend since they bask in female attention, much more compared to the average man. The Lees of the world could make excellent boyfriends because they’re so forthcoming with intimacy and so are not afraid to be openly emotional. Women have a tendency to choose that. The repercussions of such overtly affectionate behaviour, however, are that whenever the Lees get bored, they get really bored really quickly. Transferring their affections onto another girl can occur instantly. Not fun for another party.
So, are you currently leading on a woman right now? For those who have spooned, cuddled, kissed and stroked her during intercourse several nights in a row, then yes, she’ll be inclined to believe you’re interested. Or telling her you prefer her, that’s another sure-fire hint.
For those who have just started dating a woman: Did you ask to meet with her again? Did you talk and laugh before restaurant closed? Are you texting passionately while you haven’t actually asked her out again? If you’re not interested, but doing these things, you’re leading her on.

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