Language Barriers

One thing I’ve learned from my (many) years of dating, is that women and men speak completely different languages. If we were better communicators I doubt any of us would break up with anyone, ever. We’d be too busy not arguing, having loads of fun and feeding each other grapes on a planet perfectly aligned between Mars and Venus.
But what happens when it’s not only the metaphorical language barrier you need to contend with, but the actual, literal one too? What I am talking about, dear readers, is dating someone from another national country.
It wasn’t until Not long ago i started seeing a French man that I realised not merely how difficult it really is up to now someone of another native tongue, but how common it really is remarkably, too. Going for a quick glance around my friendship group, among my close friends – British, Tina – is married to a Brazilian chap who doesn’t speak a word of English. My American ex-flatmate is dating a Jamaican bloke, a woman I met through work is seeing a South African and another good friend of mine, Maria, is certainly going out with someone half Italian/half German. British boys, some competition is had by you.
In Tina’s case, she actually is fluent in Portuguese fortunately, having spent 25 % of her life there. ‘But I’m intrinsically British,’ she says. ‘So, it’s not only hard when he meets my mates plus they can’t speak to him, we argue about cultural differences. Between Brazil and Britain, there are always a complete lot. Misunderstandings often result in fights and fighting in another language is actually annoying. I often find yourself switching back again to English because Personally i think I cannot express myself.’ Mia’s problem may be the same: whilst her boyfriend speaks English, he’s from the rigid German upbringing and doesn’t entirely ‘get’ English girl behaviour. Rows have escalated, i’m told by her, which often bring about him phoning a mate and talking in German merely to annoy her as she can’t know very well what he’s saying.
I met Damien in a bar and we hit it off instantly. He was gorgeous and had an accent. You can find few things more intoxicating to a British woman, whose had her arse groped by way of a beer-breathed Chelsea fan just, than having sweet nothings whispered to her by way of a fit French dude. Damian was essentially the most lovely and genuine guys I’ve dated. But having to explain my jokes and explain cultural references was irksome. He didn’t much take care of British current affairs, Television celebrity and shows – things I base my career, and subsequently nearly all my conversations on. He could speak English, French and Spanish, had lived in a large number of different countries and was created in Paris; I usually felt just a little inferior and silly. Shamefully, I failed languages miserably at school, around the time I came across boys, cider and South Park. The Greek lessons my father made us take as children have gone me with the capacity of knowing just three phrases in the language.
So, if they are the downsides of dating someone from the different country, do you know the good? It sure keeps things interesting. It’ll, in many ways, make you a far more well-rounded and open-minded couple far. You’ll embrace different traditions and lifestyles. Understand to speak another language and travel more regularly. Your children will undoubtedly be multilingual and multi-cultural undoubtedly.

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