Just once you thought adolescence was gone once and for all, that you’re now and forever an adult who gets to enjoy all the benefits of adulthood, something tough and hard to handle might happen that throws you right back into adolescence. Adult adolescence refers to the constant process of maturing that can happen at any time in your life – whether you’re an 18-year-old entering the world on your own for the first time, a 25-year-old starting to map out the rest of your life, or a divorced 40-year-old who finds himself living the single life again. For over 11 years, I’ve been giving sex and relationship advice to men all over the country to help them lead more successful lives. I’ve experienced the same stages of adult adolescence in my life that you have. Whether it’s looking forward, backward or at what’s happening in your life right now, hopefully I can offer some guidance by examining the difficult times of transition in our lives.
Your 20-something dating life
You are 27 years old and dating. In the six or seven years since you’ve graduated from college , there have been a lot of ups and downs in your dating life. There have been lots of crushes, and a lot of times being crushed.
Perhaps your best friend in the entire world was dating an amazing girl, and the whole time they were dating all you kept thinking was: “Why can’t I meet somebody like her?” Each and every time you hung out with them in a group you had such great chemistry with her. She was so cool. You always told your buddy how lucky he was to possess a woman like her.
Now they’ve broken up, and she’s started calling you; she tells you she’s beginning to have feelings for you. Simultaneously, your best friend still talks about her and wonders if he did something wrong.
You’re in love with your best friend’s ex , and she is in love with you. How can you handle this? What do you do in this situation?
Dating your best friend’s ex – it’s OK
Sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. You know she feels the same way about you, as you do about her. Have that heart-to-heart talk with her and then ask her: “What do we do about telling my buddy? I don’t want to lose my friendship with him, but I wish to act on my feelings for you personally.” You both know your friend very well, and together it will be possible to create a way to simply tell him so that he’ll not be angry or hurt.

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